Mariah Wolfe

In this the no. 9 episode I talk with Maria Wolfe, who is a Connection Coach, Couples Counselor, Author, Psychotherapist, Mentor & Speaker. Mariah has been living as a nomad since 2017, where she gave everything away and left Denmark only with those of her belongings that could fit in her carry-on. Since then she has followed her heart and the sun. On her adventurous journey she met her life partner Gerry, with whom she has recorded some beautiful partnership processes. You should definitely check them out on her Youtube Channel: Author Mariah Wolfe.

Childhood Wounds and Cultural Conditioning

Ever since my conversation no.7 with Martin Rutte about Project Heaven on Earth, I have been thinking a lot about the state of the world. According to Martin, anybody you ask would like “Heaven on Earth”, and “99% also have an answer for what Heaven on Earth is”. And he would know. He has been asking people this question since 1998! So why haven’t we created “Heaven on Earth” yet? Why are we not creating the world we love to live in?

Just as Jack Canfield writes in the foreword to Martin’s book “Project Heaven on Earth”, I also believe it’s because we all, in our own unique ways, have been wounded in childhood and been conditioned by the different belief systems of our cultures. “As a result, we are often unconsciously run by our fear rather than by our true nature, which is naturally cooperative and loving. But deep down, underneath all the wounding and all the conditioning, we all want to live in peace, we want to love and be loved, and we want the freedom to express our true selves. It doesn’t matter where you go in the world, we all tear up or get goose bumps when people do things that are compassionate, kind, and loving because that is a fundamental part of our human nature.”

Thriving after Narcissistic Abuse, Is that even Possible?

I decided to start exploring narcissism as a possible reason why humanity haven't created the world, we love to live in yet. Mariah Wolfe is specialized in the topic of narcissism, being a survivor of narcissistic childhood abuse herself. I, too, am a survivor of narcissistic childhood abuse. I have known about and been connected to Mariah for more than 10 years because of her books and talks on the topic, so I decided to contact her to ask for her perspectives.

One thing is to survive narcissism - to get out of “the hell” - but can we thrive after narcissistic abuse, i.e. get “the hell” out of ourselves?

"Yes", Mariah replies laughingly in our conversation. And of course it takes quite a bit of work to become whole, when you have been severely broken as a child! 

What is Narcissism?

We need to distinguish between the narcissistic traits we all possess to a larger or lesser degree and the mental illness "Narcissistic Personality Disorder".. All people with an ego - i.e. all of us (!) - have narcissistic traits. As Mariah says, a baby is only concerned with it's own survival and is screaming if it's cold, hungry, or just needs contact not having any empathy for mom or dad, that have to get out of bed in the middle of the night. That is very narcissistic. But it's a healthy narcissism. Babies then grow up learning that life is so much more enjoyable, when we include each other and share our toys, and play together. Children let go of the narcissistic traits (me-me-me), if they're nourished, protected, and guided by sane and balanced adults. 

People who become narcissists are not taught to let go of the narcissistic traits. They are taught that they should not exist in the world; they are not welcome; they are not wanted; they are not desirable; they are a thing existing in the world of their parents's life. They become objects instead of subjects.  

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is diagnosed by trained mental health professionals through a structured interview to learn more about an individual’s typical behavioral patterns. If someone consistently displays at least 5 of the 9 following traits, they meet the diagnostic criteria for the condition:

1. Inflated self-esteem or a grandiose sense of self-importance or superiority.
2. Craving admiration.
3. Exploitative relationships (i.e., manipulation).
4. Little to no empathy.
5. Identity is easily disturbed (i.e., can’t handle criticism).
6. Lack of attachment and intimacy.
7. Feelings of depression or emptiness when not validated.
8. A sense of entitlement.
9. Can feel like others are envious of them, or may envy others.

Ordinary people cannot diagnose NPD. Only trained mental health professionals can do that. 

What is Narcissistic Abuse?

Narcissistic abuse is when a person controls you and keeps you small (inferior) with verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, physical, and/or mental tactics such as manipulation, gas-lightening, triangulation, dog-whistling, brainwashing, guilting, shaming, love-bombing, devaluation, projection, lying, and/or playing the victim. People using narcissistic abuse tactics slowly manipulate you into thinking that you are broken and small. and that you amount to nothing. When you are abused narcissistically, you will experience that there is no room for you in your own life. You don't have your own opinion, you don't know what you like, you don't feel yourself, and you don't know who you are. You are invisible to yourself and to others, and you develop a fake persona, just like the person who abuses you.     

The purpose of narcissistic abuse is to control other people. It is unconscious behavior. The core of narcissism is to "not feel myself". The narcissists do what they do so as to not feel themselves, because they have a pain inside - a deep abandonment and rejection wound - they feel unloved and unworthy to a degree where it is so scary for them, they would fall apart if they realized what was going on inside of them. The disease is to be in denial of "what I feel". Therefore, they project the pain onto others.

The Logic of The Narcissist

"I cannot relate to, I cannot handle, I cannot contain the pain that dwells inside of me, so I will do anything to not have to look at it and feel it. I will project it onto others. I will make others flawed. I will give the pain to others. So that I can see that the pain is not in me, it's out there in other people."

For Mariah, it was a big wake-up call realizing that she had been narcissistically abused by her father, because she then understood, that she wasn't the one who was crazy! And what was broken inside of her could be fixed. She then spend the next 10 years working on the topic of narcissism, trying to understand the mechanisms and the best way to heal the narcissistic abuse syndrome. 

Can We Co-Create the World We Love to Live in with a Narcissist?

No, A narcissist will never assume responsibility for their own behavior. And they don't know what they love. They are an object rather than a subject. We therefore need to "kill" our inner narcissist, i.e. heal the narcissistic wound inside of us, if we want to become "New World Leads".

According to Mariah, we must create the world we love to live in inside of ourselves and with the people who are close to us. We need to spend our energy on people who are aligned with our life values, so that we facilitate our tribe, i.e. people who want a deeper connection with us. By helping each other being who we truly are and facilitating the co-creation with the people who are close to us, hopefully it will spread like ripples in water. Mariah's take is: We cannot fix the politics of the USA. We cannot fix the war in Ukraine. We cannot fix the dictator of North Korea. We cannot fix all those things. We can only make ourselves unhappy by hearing about it, talking about it, and thinking about it. So let's do none of that and instead focus on our community and the people who are close to us: What can we do to facilitate us experiencing joy, and having fun, laughter, and be calm? How can we be the change in our everyday life? 

Mariah's name is actually Mette Glargaard, but no one has been able to pronounce her name in the countries she's been travelling, so she chose Mariah Wolfe as her pen name. She has written several books;"The Healing Journey", "The Power to be You", "Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome", "Narcissistic Men", "Narcissistic Women", "Dead Men", "Attract Your Forever Love". Find out more here: Love & Connection.

Martin Rutte

In this the no. 7 episode I talk with Martin Rutte, who is an International Speaker, Management Consultant and a very successful businessman. As the President of his own management firm "Livelihood" he has been doing visionary strategy consultancy for big companies such as Sony Pictures, Apple Computer and Virgin Records. Martin was the first Canadian to address the Corporate Leadership and Ethics Forum of the Harvard Business School returning as the Keynote Speaker 4 times (!) He is also the co-author of the New York Times Business Bestseller “Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work” with over 1 million copies sold and translations into 15 languages so far. Super impressive bio!

One day back in 1998 - 25 years ago! - he got an ephiphany about his next assignment in life: "I'm going to take on changing the story of what it means to be a human and what it means to be Humanity so that we collectively experience co-creating Heaven on Earth"!

How about that!

Naïve, Unrealistic ...

Or an Actual Possibility?

Is it naïve, unrealistic? You know, following the logic: We've never had it! We've always had suffering, That's just the way the world is! Or, is it actually a possibility? According to Martin, we can do it! If we can create "Hell" on Earth, it's certainly also in our powers to create "Heaven" on Earth! 

We actually don't even have to believe that we can do it, according to Martin. Because then we could easily just give up on the whole project. We just need to give it a chance: Feel into what "Heaven on Earth" is for us by recalling a moment in time we experienced it, defining "Heaven on Earth" from the essence of that experience, and then commit to start doing one or more tiny, easy step(s) within the next 24 hours that's in alignment of that essence. And then just keep going. One day at a time. 

We all have the authority to start co-creating "Heaven on Earth". You don't need to be rich or famous or in an official leadership position to do it. You can be, but that is besides the point. Every human counts. Every thought, emotion, and action is important. Obviously, it would be beneficial to a large degree, if people in official leadership positions, people in political positions or otherwise influential people would start projecting "Heaven on Earth" as rolemodels, but let's not wait for others to get started. Let's just get going now ourselves!

The 3 Simple Questions that will Help You Change the World - Easily 

So to clarify, "Heaven on Earth" isn't a particular point of view, that Martin has and wants to shove down your throat (!) That has never been his idea at all with this project. On the contrary, he asks you to recall a time when you experienced Heaven on Earth. Interestingly enough, almost no one asks him for a definition of "Heaven on Earth", when he asks them the question. We all know - instinctively - what he means by the phrase.

Listen to our conversation and pause the video after each question to write down your own answer. The 3 questions are:

1. Recall a time when you experienced Heaven on Earth. What was happening?
2. Imagine you have a magic wand and with it you can create Heaven on Earth. What is Heaven on Earth for you?
3. What simple, easy, concrete step(s) will you take in the next 24 hours to make Heaven on Earth real?

Anybody can do it. Martin Rutte has been talking about creating Heaven on Earth to countless numbers of people from different walks of life, work, and leadership over the past 25 years. As an example of people in political leadership check out all 4 Political Party Leaders in Prince Edward Island, Canada, talking about  Heaven on Earth here.  In 2018 he published the book "Project Heaven on Earth" with all his findings over the years. 

When I myself answered Martin's 3 Heaven on Earth questions, I discovered that my perspective is that we create the world we love to live in by recalling a time we loved and felt loved, becoming aware of what love is, looks, and feels like for us, and then committing to do an act of love within the next 24 hours. And just like that I suddenly found myself in my very own "love-bubble" AND wrapping the whole world in the "love-bubble" as well. What a wonderful "total-system-experience" of both-and. Both the world and I. Not either-or. Both me and the world. We are one in the love bubble. So, to me, we co-create the world we love to live in by loving ourselves and the world, all inclusive.

Evil and Boundaries

Just to be clear, love is also boundaries, i.e. telling people that unloving actions have consequences: You are free to choose whatever action you want to take in life, but you are not free from the consequences of your actions. So, for instance the people selling children to sex-trafficking etc. and the people harming and abusing children like we see in the movie "Sound of Freedom" have to be caught and put in prison or a secure psychiatric hospital. And the children need to be taken properly care of; healed, nourished, protected, and guided.

Hell on Earth

Ever since watching the movie "Sound of Freedom" upon its release on the 4th of July of 2023, I have been troubled by the fact, that child trafficking is now allegedly a $152 billion industry globally, and that over 2 million children are sold as sex slaves every year. Sex trafficking of children is by far one of the most alarming problems in our world. Most of us cannot believe it's really happening. Cognitive dissonance sets in. We will not believe it. It's too painful to acknowledge. Yet, it's the experience of so many children all around the world right now. That - to me - is "Hell on Earth". I'm looking forward to seeing our world leaders step forward, acknowledging child trafficking and child abuse as the no. 1 priority on the global agenda and putting an end to this evil right now. Our children are not for sale! Our children are the future! When they experience "Hell on Earth" like this - being sold, abused and taken advantage of - how can we - they - ever be capable of co-creating "Heaven on Earth"?

Heaven on Earth

That is why I felt compelled to bring this topic to my conversation with Martin Rutte. And now I have an even deeper understanding of why: For me "Heaven on Earth" is children landing in the "love-bubble" upon arrival on planet Earth, as I recall my "love-bubble-experience" with my firstborn child. For my version of "Heaven on Earth" to become a reality, I have to wrap all of humanity in the love-bubble, because you cannot give what you do not have: We all need to experience love in order to be able to love. My logic is that we need to love the evil out of every person on this planet for "Heaven on Earth" to become a reality. That's my "Heaven on Earth mission": "Project Love-bubble".

Please Join Us

I will not wait for our world leaders to change the world! I will change the world and co-create "Heaven on Earth" with small baby steps every day in the company of Martin Rutte and all the other amazing people on our planet doing this work. Please join us. Come as you are. Listen to the conversation and find out what "Heaven on Earth" is for you by answering the 3 simple questions, Martin guides me/us through in the conversation. After asking these questions for so many years, Martin discovered some patterns in the answers, and he identified 7 gateways to "Heaven on Earth". Find your gateway with the help of "Project Heaven on Earth". 

Martin's own experiences and definitions of "Heaven on Earth"

1. Asking Martin his own questions, Martin recalled an experience of raspberries being a kid growing up; big, fat, juicy, fresh raspberries sent Martin straight into "Heaven on Earth". A look of love from his wife has the same effect on him. 
2. Heaven on Earth for Martin Rutte is people getting their agency, that they as individuals and we collectively can have Heaven here on Earth right now, and that that is the story; the consciously lived story of humanity: We see it. We see it happening. We can feel the momentum of it as it flourishes. That is amazing. Wonderful. Life right now IS Heaven on Earth, when we step into our "conscious consciousness" (he just made up that term ... haha). 
3. Doing this conversation was, for Martin, one of the baby steps making Heaven on Earth real. As people watch this, the energy of "Heaven on Earth" starts spreading. Also he encourages us to start having this conversation with our loved ones, partners, children, etc. So, Martin's baby steps each day is to inspire all of us to really get that we are the co-creators of "Heaven on Earth". That Heaven is real. Right here. Right now. 

Project Heaven on Earth

It's not enough with "Heaven on Earth" just for you, the individual. We also need "Heaven on Earth" for we, humanity, all of us. Find out more about Project Heaven on Earth here. Buy the book to read more about the project and the 7 gateways here - or, get 3 copies of the book (one for you, one for a friend who needs it, and one for a new friend about to enter your life). And, if you grab 20 copies of the book, you’ll get a free, live, one-hour online presentation for your group with Martin, or a Heaven on Earth consulting session with Martin. Just send your Amazon receipt - once you’ve purchased your 20 books - to: martin@projectheavenonearth.com, and he’ll get back to you.

Beatrice Savage

In this the no. 5 episode I talk with Beatrice Savage, who is a Wealth & Success Coach for Women Entrepreneurs and Executives in the Health and Wellness Industry. Beatrice has a background as a Master of International Business Communication and is specialised in a coaching practice called Protreptic, which is an ancient philosophical dialogue practice that encourages the individual to examine oneself, the essence and the values, and to start managing one's life. Beatrice works with practices that besides a philosophical entrance includes mystical and mental science, body awareness & bodywork, mindfulness, and psychedelics, and offers workshops, circles, and 1:1 experiences. 

The Root of Abundance

A tool in Protreptic is Etymology, i.e. the history and meaning of words. According to Beatrice, the root of abundance is "abound", which in Proto-Indo-European means "wet", which basically has the meaning of "water".

If abundance has a root in the concept of water, what does that mean? To me? To you? To the collective?

For me, it brought me right back to my conversation with Susanne Frandsen about the "Drama Triangle" and the advice of stopping the drama and becoming like water. And I went on thinking that nature is abundant, growing effortlessly, and blooming effortlessly. And we are nature, as I talked with Lucy Vittrup Christensen about. Therefore we must also be abundant as nature. And if we water our essence - our nature - obviously we will bloom like nature! By my strings of thoughts Beatrice was inspired to mention the "Law of Wealth", which says, that we need to believe, that we already are and have everything required within us to experience wealth, and all we have to do is to water and care for the seeds of wealth and abundance within us. We go on talking about how we actually don't have to become "like water", i.e. abundance, because we are already made of water! Two-thirds of the human body consists of water, and in total that makes up 99% of all molecules in our bodies. Beatrice says 90%, but is actually more or less, depending of how you measure it of course. The point is that we don't have to become something - transform into something else than what we already are, because we are water. And in this sense we already are abundant in the sense of the root of the word abundance. 

Time for reflection: What does water mean to you? 

Continuing with the Law of Wealth: There are many ways to "water our seeds of abundance". According to Beatrice, Plato expressed the view that thinking and speaking are two sides of the same coin, and she goes on saying, that how we think and how we speak is the water we pour on our "abundance seeds", because that is determining how we are going to feel and vibrate in our bodies. This is how we get to work with the embodiment of abundance: We need to become aware of what we are thinking and speaking. How are we actually caring for the seeds of abundance within us?

What is Abundance? 

To me, abundance is every element of thriving on this planet. It's not just a financial perspective, i.e. money. Abundance and wealth is so much more. It's health and well-being in every way. Beatrice agrees: Abundance is a wealthy life experience full of joy and love. Abundance is an experience, a perspective, and a choice! It's our natural condition, when we choose to see it. There is more than enough of everything in our world. More than enough water. More than enough blades of grass. When we become aware of it, we can even expand our experience of time, the only ressource that in truth is actually limited in days, months, and years from we're born till we die. We can actually create a feeling of more than enough time in our experience. Abundance is an energetic choice we can align with.    

What is the Opposite of Abundance?

The opposite of Abundance is lack and loss, and it expresses itself as anxiety, stress, angst, depression; all sorts of mental and holistic imbalances and disease, anger, guilt, and shame, etc. That is hell to most people. And it's not an experience we want to continue being it, because it's destructive. Yet, many people on our planet today is living under conditions of lack and loss, creating life from a lack-and-loss-mindset, in their everyday experience. This happens when we don't think we have a choice; when we live our lives as if we didn't have a choice. That is not to shame or guilt anyone, but shame and guilt plays a big part in the game of lack and loss. As Beatrice puts it: "When I was in that place, I felt that I didn't have a choice. I felt hopeless, I felt that my life was happening to me, I was caught in the drama. Unaware that there was another reality for me to chose." 

The Rules of the Abundance Game

The rules of "the abundance game" are individual and different for all of us, but they always begins with source: Accepting and trusting that there is something beyond us. We didn't make it on earth by ourselves. We have to align ourselves with the source, the universe, and our feminine qualities - for both men and women. And then we need to accept that we always have a choice. And that choice is daily, at all times. We need to foster the awareness as to what it is that creates our reality on a daily basis. We can distance ourselves from our daily experiences and the world we live in and be shown the rules of our own unique abundance game. And we must start questioning: What is my ultimate experience? When we create a deep connection with source, what we need to know is being shown to us, and already is. When we embody that deeper level of belief, that's how wealth and abundance shows up for us. 

Abundance is created inside-out. It's a question of self management and self leadership. What kind of experiences am I having, and how am I managing my experiences? What am I thinking? What am I feeling? What am I speaking? How am I managing my emotions? We need to have a heightened level of awareness. A hyper-awareness. Looking at and examining: What do I actually believe abundance to be? What does abundance feel like? We have to start with ourselves before we start managing the collective, because the collective is going to be a direct reflection of the self! 

According to Beatrice we create the world we love to live in by becoming that world. It is a choice. And the choice is ours. And it starts with us. We are all abundant. This Earth is abundant. We're all meant to be here. And our time is now! 

Listen to our talk about the concept and practices of abundance, the synergy and constant play between the ME- and the WE-consciousness, the thought-patterns and emotional states blocking our growth and abundance, the co-dependent dysfunctional thinking "how can I enjoy this amazing experience of abundance and wealth, when there are other people on this planet suffering and going hungry to bed?", shame and guilt, how we are all powerful creators of our own reality and thereby responsible for our own experiences in life, but that we produce what is familiar to us, so if we've made agreements to suffer in this life experience, that is what we will reproduce again and again until we heal the source of the trauma and undo the agreements, the energy and thinking of the sovereign soul, the Empress-archetype as opposed to the trauma-induced programming of not deserving, the consciousness of lack and loss, and how so many of us are still subconsciously producing more lack and loss without even thinking about it, which is the direct opposite of an abundance consciousness, and so much more.

Susanne Frandsen

In this the no. 3 episode I talk with Transformational Coach, Author and Speaker Susanne Frandsen from Denmark. Susanne has written a manual for leaders and CEOs - "The Director's Manual" - and is also the co-author of the children's book "Sia & The Magic Stone". Susanne is catalyzing change in individuals and organizations, and she is also a "Heaven on Earth" Ambassador, which really caught my attention because of the focus of The New World Lead project, obviously. 

Emotional Intelligence

We met at the Northern Europe's Leading Business Conference, "Presidents Summit" in Copenhagen on May, 31st, 2023. The theme for the conference was "Building the Future", and we were both thrilled that the hot topic of Emotional Intelligence was on the agenda. Several speakers touched upon the need for a new leadership paradigm, and Susanne and I got talking about this "burning platform" presented at the leadership summit. From there the conversation about the power of emotions unfolded. 

Becoming a Frequency Match

Susanne also adheres to the new spiritual-based leadership model based on quantum physics and epigenetics leading from the heart and creating heart-brain coherence. 

According to Susanne Frandsen, instead of focusing on the things we can do on the outside to make this world a better place, we have to go within, because we can only create the world we love to live in by becoming a frequency match to that world in our inner landscape. In order for os to become the right frequency match, we have to master our emotions. 

The world around us is like a "photocopier" of what goes on within us. If we are caught in the "Drama Triangle", we create the opposite of what we love. When we choose to become "Kings" or "Queens" of our inner landscape, we become capable of creating our version of "Heaven on Earth" by following our hearts, aligning our minds, and sharing our unique super powers with the world. The fastest path is to become like water: Follow the path of least resistance and most joy.

We create the world inside-out with our energy. We have to recognize that everything is energy. Our thoughts emanate from a certain frequency of energy, and so do our emotions. Emotions are energy in motion, and we can measure our emotions on a megahertz frequency-scale, also known as The Hawkins' Scale. Emotions such as shame, guilt, and anger are low and slow moving on the scale, whereas love, happiness, meaning, and gratitude are high and fast moving on the scale. The higher on the scale, the more heart-brain coherence, and the more alignment between what we want in life and what we actually experience, because we shift from being governed by fear to being governed by faith, trusting that everything will turn out just right. 

The Level of Self Awareness

The no. 1 cornerstone of having a high EQ and becoming a highly successful leader is our level of self awareness, i.e. the ability to be reflecting back upon ourselves. We all carry unconscious repressed emotions in our bodies, and these unconscious parts of our inner landscape are creating our experiences in the outer world. In order for anything to change, we have to be willing and open to investigate our "backpack of trauma". We become acutely aware of that backpack, when we get triggered. A trigger is a signpost that there's something buried within us that needs to be witnessed, felt, and released. We have to feel it to heal it!

In a performance-driven world of KPI's this can be a very challenging task for a leader not familiar with "the inner work". We can only get to a certain stage at the mental level. We have to get into the body to release the trauma on a cellular level. Our bodies are not just a way of transporting our heads! Our wisdom and our trauma lies in the body, and it takes courage, an openness to be vulnerable, and a safe non-judgmental space created by helpers to relase and let go of deep-seated pain and emotions. The good news is that the space for healing and next generation leadership already has been created by the many who are walking the path and know how to do the inner work, It can be a fast process, if we ask for and get the right help. 

Beliefs and Programming

Many of us carry beliefs of being "wrong" in some way, or not "good enough", and we have been programmed with logics such as "no pain, no gain", "if you say A, you must also say B", "It's unworthy to jump the fence at its lowest point", "The Imposter Syndrome", etc. We need to release all these beliefs and programs and reinvent something else in order to master our emotions. Many are also motivated "away-from" instead of "going to", and as long as we are running away from pain by working too much, eating too much, etc. etc., we are suppressing our emotions instead of releasing them. That's the opposite of mastering our emotions. 

Leaving the Drama Triangle

The "Drama Triangle" is a good way of explaining the dysfunctional dynamics in every relationship - both outside of us to other people and circumstances and inside of us to the different parts of ourselves. Awareness of the "Drama Triangle" is also a good starting point to understand how we can begin mastering our emotions. Susanne talks about the creator consciousness as the position of King or Queen in the center of the triangle, and how it's important to conduct an inner dialogue with all the "subordinates" caught up in the victim-, rescuer- and violator-logic because of trauma-induced beliefs and programming. We need to become a loving parent to ourselves, and in that light the children's book "Sia & The Magic Stone" is also a perfect read for leaders, because all of your "subordinates" are your "inner children". They would greatly benefit from a fairytale based on deep ageless wisdom backed up by the newest science. 

A way of leaving the "Drama Triangle" is to perceive of a whole new triangle like "The Empowerment Dynamic" with the logic of the creator-consciousness, the challenger, and the coach instead of the victim, the rescuer, and the violator.

Listen to our talk about emotional intelligence, emotional abuse, the importance of the creator consciousness so as not to "drown" in the sea of emotions, heart-brain coherence, the drama triangle, the empowerment dynamic, how important it is to team up with people who have walked the path instead of trying to do the inner work on your own, triggers, co-dependency, spiritual bypassing, full-body yes'es and full-body no's, the zero-point field in quantum physics, epigenetics, becoming the solution to the problem in a fraction of a second, sovereignty, and so much more.

Brian Piergrossi

In this the no. 1 episode I talk with Life Coach, Breath Work Facilitator & Author Brian Piergrossi from Asheville, USA.

Brian's spirit caught my attention and impacted me profoundly via a piece of writing that I stumbled across on social media titled "A Spiritual Conspiracy" (originally the title is "Love is the new religion"):

LOVE IS THE NEW RELIGION by Brian Piergrossi

"On the surface of the world right now there is war and violence and things seem dark. But calmly and quietly, at the same time, something else is happening underground. An inner revolution is taking place and certain individuals are being called to a higher light. It is a silent revolution. From the inside out. From the ground up. 

This is a Global operation. A Spiritual Conspiracy. There are sleeper cells in every nation on the planet. You wont see us on the T.V. You wont read about us in the newspaper. You wont hear about us on the radio. We don't seek any glory. We don't wear any uniform. We come in all shapes and sizes, colors and styles. Most of us work anonymously. We are quietly working behind the scenes in every country and culture of the world. Cities big and small, mountains and valleys, in farms and villages, tribes and remote islands. 

You could pass by one of us on the street and not even notice. We go undercover. We remain behind the scenes. It is of no concern to us who takes the final credit. But simply that the work gets done. Occasionally we spot each other in the street. We give a quiet nod and continue on our way. During the day many of us pretend we have normal jobs. But behind the false storefront at night is where the real work takes a place. Some call us the Conscious Army. 

We are slowly creating a new world with the power of our minds and hearts. We follow, with passion and joy. Our orders come from the Central Spiritual Intelligence. We are dropping soft, secret love bombs when no one is looking.

Poems ~ Hugs ~ Music ~ Photography ~ Movies ~ Kind words ~ Smiles ~ Meditation and prayer ~ Dance ~ Social activism ~ Websites ~ Blogs ~ Random acts of kindness. We each express ourselves in our own unique ways with our own unique gifts and talents. 

Be the change you want to see in the world. That is the motto that fills our hearts. We know it is the only way real transformation takes place. We know that quietly and humbly we have the power of all the oceans combined. Our work is slow and meticulous Like the formation of mountains. It is not even visible at first glance. And yet with it entire tectonic plates shall be moved in the centuries to come. 

Love is the new religion of the 21st century. You don't have to be a highly educated person. Or have any exceptional knowledge to understand it. It comes from the intelligence of the heart. Embedded in the timeless evolutionary pulse of all human beings. 

Be the change you want to see in the world. Nobody else can do it for you. We are now recruiting. Perhaps you will join us. Or already have. All are welcome. The door is open ~"

The Big Glow

The piece was written around 2005 and published in Brian's book The Big Glow from 2008. It was catalyzed again in 2020 onwards and really hit a chord in people's hearts. "A timeless and a timely message", as Brian puts it in our conversation. "It's bringing people together all around the world".

A Spiritual Conspiracy

The phrase "A Spiritual Conspiracy" in the piece really hit a chord in me, because I personally experienced being shamed and called a "conspiracy theorist" on social media in 2020, when I was raising questions concerning the political response to the pandemic. I reacted to the fear-narratives that lead to measures of control, lack, and limitation in most societies around the world. Reading Brian's piece was empowering for me. The mere thought of using the word "conspiracy" in a spiritual setting with positive connotations made me want to reach out and get in touch with the man behind the words. This is why Brian Piergrossi is the first New World Lead Conversation. I had no idea his text had been written more than 15 years before I read it. 

The Inner Work

"The work", Brian writes about in the piece, is "the inner work". As he says in our conversation, it's easy to project outward and look at everything and everyone else as "wrong" and get angry and upset, The reason we get angry and upset is because there is a sense of disempowerment. 

Self Awareness In The Now

We can't change the outer circumstances or other people. We can work on ourselves. We can change. Self awareness and being in the present moment are the keys to creating change. Being present in the now makes transformation possible. Change and transformation can only happen in you, and it can only happen now! When you make transformation in yourself by becomming more aware, conscious, awake, and present, you will make an impact on others and the world, on both the future and the past, because both the past and future are created by stories in the now. The more awake we become in the present, the more our stories about the past and future can change. In this way we can change the whole trajectory we're on, from past to future. 

According to Brian Piergrossi, the way we create the world we love to live in is to start telling a new story about the now, the future, and the past. Instead of all the disempowering stories, we have to start telling empowering stories of love, peace, freedom, gratitude, forgiveness, appreciation, and compassion. The more we ourselves awaken to these qualities of love, peace, freedom, gratitude, forgiveness, appreciation, and compassion in the present moment, the more these qualities are imbued in our storytelling about the future, the now, and the past.

With the new qualities and storytelling in place, that becomes the world we live in. The stories we are telling are always a mirror of our perception of reality. We can change that perception. When we do, our outer reality changes.  

The Empowering Story

Living and speaking your truth is the gateway to the greatest and most genuine freedom, peace, love and all the other qualities. Other people might not like it, disagree with you and be angry and upset. That has nothing to do with you and it's just a part of life. We're all on different stages of a journey of consciousness, evolutionary growth and expansion.We grow through being challenged. We live in both super challenging and extremely exciting times right now. The empowering story is that the greater the challenge we face, the greater the opportunity to grow and awaken.

Deeper Questions

In the western world many of us are awakening from a very materialistic, atheistic, and nihilistic way of being in the world with a core belief that nothing really matters and that there's no deeper meaning to life. Awakening means starting to ask deeper questions: Who are we? What is the purpose of life? When we are challenged in a major way, we open ourselves to the spiritual connection, that is avaliable to all of us, we just need to ask and inquire.